THE DREAMER, NOT THE DREAM

The time is coming when you will accept that you are not who you think you are. You believe that this life is real, that this is all there is, unless you also believe in some sort of afterlife, where you will go when you die, and where you will know everything and achieve some sort of perfection. But this is the Dreamer’s limited perception from inside the dream, the way he or she tries to make sense of what is impossible to understand.

Your physical laws come into existence after observing a pattern that seems to correlate with a theory, and so you define what you observe around you based upon your limited perceptions. But dream logic will always shatter. It may not be now, it may not be in your lifetime, but it will shatter. It must, because it is an illusion, just like the dream you are dreaming now. You are not the dream.

Just as it’s possible to wake up inside of the dreams you dream at night, it is also possible to wake up inside of this dream you call your waking life. Once you do, you can begin to ask the question, Who am I really? Why am I dreaming this dream, which often we could label a nightmare? Is this the dream I want to dream? If not, how do I dream a better dream? And, eventually, how do I step outside of the dream completely?

A Call to the Divine Masculine

This afternoon, I visited with my two sisters, my 11 year-old nephew, and my 3 year-old niece. We went for ice cream at a favorite local restaurant, which had provided distanced picnic tables in a grassy area above the parking lot. My nephew and I waited for our ice cream while my sisters hauled my niece up the steep stairs with their treats. All this time, a random dog was running off-leash, around the lined-up customers (mostly women and children). As my nephew and I headed for the picnic area, we heard a man screaming obscenities at the top of his lungs, and saw my sisters trying to get my niece back down the stairs. It was his dog that was running around and, when the dog ran up to my niece, overwhelming her with its size, my sister asked the man to call his dog over to him. The man started screaming, “F*****g bitches! In 15 years I’ve never put my dog on a leash and I’m not going to start now.”

When I went up to confront the man myself, he and his wife had left the park, and I saw my sister’s ice cream still sitting on the table, melting into a puddle. I headed down the stairs to tell my sisters that they should come back, and I saw the man sitting his in his luxury SUV next to the stairs. I looked at him and said, “Were you just cursing out my sisters and my little niece?” He sneered, “Who, me? No! You must have me confused with someone else!” And laughed. I said, “You’re a real man, aren’t you?” He said, “Are you bitch too?” I replied, “Absolutely.” I looked at his license plate and read the number back to him, at which point he took off. His wife never said a word; she was completely subdued. The only other man privy to the incident commented and laughed about it to one of my sisters but at no point tried to intervene.

I felt a detached curiosity during this incident; bewildered by a 50-something year-old man who is so insecure in himself (and perhaps unable to cope with what’s happening on the planet right now) that he had to torment any woman in his vicinity, including his wife and a 3 year-old. Last night, however, I went to bed sleepless, enraged by the two separate incidents of male police terrorizing Black women and children in Washington D.C. and Colorado. Tonight, I won’t be able to sleep until I express what I feel is happening.

There is a very real energy around toxic masculinity that is being called up at this time because it is being cleared out of our world. This energy has held the seat of power for thousands of years. It has distorted major world religions, waged countless wars, and tortured and subjugated women, children, and anyone who doesn’t conform to white, male, heterosexual norms. This power has dictated the course of our planet to the point that it has nearly wiped out life in all of its forms. This corrupt masculine energy has had its day and can no longer be allowed to run the show. What we’ve seen with the #metoo movement, with the Catholic church, with sex trafficking, with Black Lives Matter—is, at last, a call for Accountability. Like any dying thing, this toxic masculine energy will kick and scream on its way out, clutching at power any way that it can, even to the point of blatant public abuse of those in weaker positions.

The energy of the Universe, in all things, is divided into the Masculine and Feminine, the Alpha and Omega. Both energies exist in each one of us, regardless of gender, and both energies are sacred. The Divine Masculine (Alpha) is Presence, Awareness, Space without form, and pure Consciousness. The Divine Feminine (Omega) is Energy, Creation, and pure Love. We can’t have one without the other; both are needed for perfect balance and harmony. When integrity lapses in one or both, we see shadow, dysfunction, toxicity, abuse. Life is thrown off balance, and disorder rules the day.

What we’ve experienced for centuries is a distortion of masculine energy, to the point that the Goddess must now intervene, or this masculine energy will destroy us. We are seeing the rise of Kali Ma, the great Mother and Protector of the Universe. She is the fierce embodiment of Shakti (or Feminine energy). She demands that Shiva (or Masculine energy) fall in line and work with her, not against her. Without her life-giving force, Shiva is impotent; with her, Shiva can become one with God or the Universe.

Those of us beings who identify with the Divine Feminine, call upon every man and masculine-identified being at this time, to step into his/their rightful place as a CONSCIOUS PRESENCE in a world that desperately needs you right now. You must not look away. You must not check out. We need you to step into your highest integrity. We need you to act. We need you to hold space for the Feminine, so that She can finally heal, trust, and thrive as She was always meant to. We need you to be Warriors and Protectors. We need you to demand better of yourselves and your brothers. We need you to hold boundaries. We need you to face your darkest shadows so that you can participate in the new world that’s coming.

Make no mistake, we are feeling the birthing pains of a new age. When a bright light suddenly illuminates a dark room, it is agonizing at first, but when our eyes adjust, we see how much beauty and perfection we had been missing. If you’re a masculine being who feels (and fears) that you’re losing your footing and place in the world—you are correct. But while this process is challenging, be assured that you are called to step into a far greater role, if you choose to accept it. The Divine Feminine holds out her hand to the Divine Masculine, beckoning him to join her. We can create something better, but it has to be together, not at the expense of the other. Men: we are looking to you. What is this moment in time demanding of you? Who are you going to become?

WHERE WE LOOK

When we put our attention and energy towards what we don’t want, it grows. When we put our attention and energy towards what we do want, it grows. Once we grasp this concept, we realize how addicted we are to nurturing that which causes us suffering. We can then make a shift within ourselves, and that’s when our external world can finally start to change. Imagine if we did this collectively, what a difference we would see? But it has to start with you and me.